No pain no gain

So you got that first shot into the net on your first try ever. So called beginners luck. Cool. Great. I envy you. Maybe you had an advantage over me, maybe its genetics, maybe...


Enough of this! Here's what's wrong, I'm analyzing the situation wrong. Instead of thinking about why the other person got their shot, I should be thinking about why my shot didn't go in.

That 'missing the shot' example, can be anything. It can be an interview, a contest, a grade, whatever. Chances are, your not going to make it the first time round. If it's your first time studying don't expect super high marks. Not to discourage you from studying, but it takes the experience of having gone through a test after you studied for it,to actually learn how to prepare for the next test. When that next test comes around,  you won't waste time finding a study method that works for you. You'll know what to do and be more accustomed. See where I'm going with this?  Not everyone gets things on their first try.Maybe you'll be one of those lucky people who can. But if your not, don't worry, you got an advantage over them. You know what you get?

It's experience.


So I had an interview for a position at the Library and right after it, my brain racked through everything I had done wrong. Experience is the harshest teacher, as I've heard before.  They sent me a letter telling me the reason why I didn't get the job was because my reference wouldn't pick up.  I'm grateful that that's what they put, but for that whole month of waiting, I learnt what I did wrong. I'm sad but I've learnt my bit and now that it's ingrained into me, I'm now more prepared for an interview than before than.

How you use your experience is entirely up to you. If you want, you can brood on it for the  rest of your life and use it as an excuse why you won't try again, or you can take advantage of it.

The options are there, but I understand it's not easy to make, because it's based on your state of mind. Are you willing to believe you've gained something other than just pain?

Let me rephrase that question,
Are you willing to try to see your life experiences other than just pain?