The hectic Family

There are lots of annoying people in the world. They tend to surface mostly on the web but let's not look too far. There are even closer people. People of the same bloodline.Without a doubt, some of the most annoying people in my life are people in my family and yet I'm glad I have such a family... Just from what I wrote, you can tell things can get hectic.
 And it does.

I envy families where the kids love each other. No joke. I would have thought that was impossible if it weren't for girls I met from another school who happened to be sisters and get this, the actually hugged each other without any weird ulterior motives. It wasn't meant as a joke or a prank or... you know, nothing sarcastic but a real, genuine,mutual hug. I was like, Is this for real?!

But wait!

It didn't stop there. They had a brother as well and when one of the sisters was tired on the subway, he actually let her rest her head on him. At this point I wanted to know how their parents raised them. I remember at some point in my life, we did treat each other well and co-operated and dare I say it, loved, but that was way way way in the past. Most families today are like mine...to some degree, so I was surprised when I saw these siblings.At one point in time we were like that. I remember defending my little brother and calling him by my mom's affectionate nick name when I was-what-like five or something.
Between then and now, what happened to us? And why?

Why is it normal to constantly be rude and treat others outside of the family better than the family itself? Is it because we can easily loose those people and we don't want that? Family, you can't shake off so you can be however you like whatever you choose to be . Usually people choose to be rude and annoying.

  We often have those annoying siblings, you know, the one's you tell to stop doing something and when you do, they do it even more. Like if you tell them to keep quiet, they make even more noise.

 Then there are those that make things worse in the household by influencing the younger ones in a bad way.  The younger siblings copy their elders. This is a stressing position to be put in as an elder. The elders are expected to help guide, not misguide their siblings. Shouldering that responsibility is hard because you have to constantly watch yourself. It doesn't help to have an older sibling ,for example, openly disrespecting their mom, right in front of the younger ones. To begin with, you shouldn't be disrespecting your mom, to make it worse, you made it look good and funny and do-able to the younger.

Honestly, it hard!  To make it worse, there's all these really bad influences around us. Be it school or the media.  I don't have kids but I have been trying to help out with the youngest kids at home so that they grow right.
 So much has gone wrong with society today and it's frustrating sometimes.

I think it's critical that little kids get exposed to what's right as they are young, so that it becomes apart of them, before those other influences attack them. At least by then they'd have some things set straight.

If you got kids, be at your best and make sure they learn good things from your actions and not just from your words. Also the people and things around your kids as well should be good.


If you got younger siblings, behave well!!!  Big sis/Bro, I didn't really think elders could actually be influential until one day I met a 2 year old telling my mom the F-word. She had no idea what it meant and she said it wrong but the fact that she said it still stands. I'm the eldest sibling and I never did swear when I was really young. Shut up and stupid was all I knew and they were the worst things to ever say. Unfortunately those words made it into my vocabulary and that of my siblings when I was around 10. Now my even younger siblings started swearing around 4-5 years! Be mindful of what you do. Though it may not seem that way they learn from you and so it's also your responsibility to help them grow right.